Your Inner Prostitute!
I love life’s unexpected surprises. Someone I’ve not met in person or even talked to by phone contacted me via email and announced he was going to be in town for the weekend and asked if I would be interested in going to a Snoop Dog concert with him. I responded by thanking him for the invite but also let him know I’m not a Snoop fan. Upon his incessant probing, I launched into a soft diatribe regarding the shallowness and degradation of our world and felt it was more important to channel my time and energy into contributing to the solutions rather than spending precious time and energy on an evening I cared nothing about.
My point in reviewing this incident, would be his telling response: “I hear ya, these were free tickets from my company. I would never pay to see him.” Let me say right up front, this blog is not about Snoop as a person or performer nor is it about this mystery gentlemen. It’s about what your personal price tag is.
At what point are you willing to compromise to get what you want because the payoff is looking pretty tantalizing? Think about that for a minute. In the case of this man, he claims he wouldn’t directly pay for the concert tickets so in his mind, it’s not costing him anything.
I thought it was interestingly misleading to himself, that he’s really under the impression that it’s not costing him in some way for being in the energy and environment of The Dog. As I sat in reflection mode, I had the thought, “you literally couldn’t pay me to devote an entire night of my life listening to that crap.” Immediately following, the thought jumped into my mind, “well, that’s not true.”
The next obvious question I had to investigate was, “at what price would I be willing to spend an entire evening with a stranger, listening to music I don’t enjoy, in a huge crowd of people I don’t know, and at least 2 hours battling rude traffic? Would I go for a $1,000.00, $10,000.00, or a cool $1,000,000.00?” I was alone inside my head, so if I admitted to having a price, I’d be the only one who’d know, until now that is.
Welcome to the Prostitute Archetype, one of four survival inner archetypes. This actually has very little to do with exchanging sexual acts for a few bucks or favors, but a great deal more to do with the price at which you’re willing to make a concession to get what you want or need. The hardcore reality is, somewhere and in some way, it’s quite likely that you are willing to pander for just the right payoff. The Prostitute will compromise for less then your status quo when you’ve hit your payoff. That of course, different for everyone.
Each of us has some version of the Prostitute Archetype within us or we absolutely wouldn’t make compromises in our life: love, children, careers, lifestyles, health, time, and the list goes on. What makes the price of one compromise more or less acceptable then the cost of another? Nothing! This is a far greater topic then I’m able to cover in this forum, so instead, I’ll defer to the expert on this subject, Dr. Carolyn Myss. Be prepared to go deep and strip the Prostitute down to only the bare bones.
For this post, a brief introduction to the 4 Survival Archetypes by Jannette J. Sanchez:
Action Steps: Reflect honestly upon all areas of life you feel you may have compromised. See if you can identify at what point you were willing to settle, at what cost to you or those around you were paid in order to get what you wanted, and most importantly, why were you so willing to compromise? Namaste’